We must Forgive Ourselves


In life we all had made decisions that we have regretted. We all from time to time struggle with choices we made. The regrets we felt are very real, and so today your devotional will be on forgiving ourselves.

Let me ask you a question? Why are we so hard on ourselves when it comes to forgiving ourselves? We realize the mistake we made. But after a while our conscience gets to us and we begin to wonder did I really do what was right? Maybe I should go back and make things right. But our flesh and minds wrestles with us for the two are never in agreement. But finally, after a lot of pain and hurt we trust God and we go and make it right. We ask God to first forgive us for our sins then we ask God to help us to forgive that person or persons who hurt us.

And yet after all of that for some reason we still have those feelings that are still taunting at us? You ask yourself, why do I still feel hurt?  The reason it is still there is because we have not forgiven ourselves. The moment you went to God and asked Him to forgive you He did. Now if you and I choose to not walk in that forgiveness then we have no one to blame but ourselves.

If you were locked in and someone came to open the door to let you out. You would not say, “leave me locked in here. No, you would walk out the open door. Well same thing applies to us when we do not forgive ourselves. We constantly see ourselves as being locked in with our pain.

When we do not walk in the forgiveness that God has given us, we will always wrestle with that pain and hurt. We end up losing sleep over it, we cannot think straight, we place blame on others. We find ourselves digging up old wounds. We make unhealthy choices. We begin to have trust issues. We think everyone is out to do us wrong.

So often we teach and preach forgiveness that we forget to tell people to forgive themselves in the process. Yes, forgiveness sets us free and delivers us, but we need to stop beating ourselves up when we make mistakes and errors. We are not perfect and not even hardly close to it, we want and desire to be a better person, let us start by loving ourselves too, so that we can move forward.

Satan loves it when we beat ourselves up. Did you know that he sits and laugh at us when we beat ourselves up? He loves to see us weak and feeling sorry and shameful. God says we are free, and we have liberty and justice.

13 Comments Add yours

  1. CG Thelen says:

    So true. It seems I am the hardest on myself. May we walk in the light and feel the warmth of God’s grace; of His forgiveness.

  2. You are right, It is easy to forgive others, and we find ourselves living in guilt and condemnation and retard our walk with God, and honestly, may God help us be kind to self the same we show kindness to others. That is the most crucial question that we must reflect on it now and then. You always have these questions that leave one with some homework to take home. Thank you for sharing—many blessings to you.

  3. desirayl says:

    I always say to myself that I can be my own enemy. For I am hard on myself.

    I am learning not to be so hard on myself.

  4. desirayl says:

    Zama, thank you. I tend to question myself to do some home work.

    Thank you for engaging as always. Be bless.❤

  5. hope says:

    Amen! To truly let go of our sin, our shame and accept the truth that we are free from it through Christ Jesus is to walk humbly with Him. Not clinging to the past failures, like some how those things define us, but instead clinging to Christ and His truth. As you said, we are free in Him. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for your dedication to the truth. God bless.❤️

  6. desirayl says:

    Thank you Hope. In Him we are truly free, Who the Son sets free is free indeed.

    Have a blessed day!

  7. Clyde'sDad says:

    I don’t care what Satan is doing. He is not part of life, ever. I choose to the next right thing as God as I understand him directs my movement. There are some things that really are unforgiveable. I know it sucks.

  8. desirayl says:

    Morning Cylde, thanks for sharing. Have a bless day in the Lord.

  9. It my pleasure, I love the interactions that comes with your posts.

  10. Forgiveness is therapeutic, Do read my post on why forgiveness to me is a 3 fold approach. https://sunniesmybunnies.wordpress.com/2020/11/09/abundance-week-5 . Thank you for sharing this wonderful post.

  11. desirayl says:

    Thank you for stopping in and reading the devotional. I will stop by your link and read what you wrote.

    Blessings to you.

  12. Thank you looking forward to your feedback 🙂

  13. You r very right it is a must to forgive ourselves

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